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- 10/01/15--14:54: Rob Lowe Says Hollywood Objectifies Men, Too
- 10/01/15--15:19: When You're Trying to Do Everything, Something Has to Give
- 10/02/15--07:59: Nick Jonas Explains Why He Keeps Choosing Gay Roles
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- 10/02/15--08:49: Why It's So Hard To Admit When You're Wrong
- Take responsibility. If you're apologizing for something, you need to own what you did, Lickerman advises.
- Offer an honest explanation. "It needs to be genuine," Lickermain said. "People can spot a disingenuous attitude from a mile away."
- Determine to do better in the future. An apology doesn't mean anything if it isn't a lesson.
- Be done with it. "Don't fawn over it, don't draw it out," Lickerman said. "Apologize then move on."
- 10/02/15--09:24: The Journey of a Refugee
- 10/02/15--10:24: 14 Inspirational Quotes About Hard Work To Get You Through The Day
- 10/02/15--11:16: 'Scream Queens' Parodies Taylor Swift In New Halloween Episode
- 10/02/15--11:42: Kylie Jenner’s Look-Alike Will Make You Do A Double-Take
- 10/02/15--12:28: Why Seth Meyers Might Be the Real Heir to Jon Stewart
- 10/02/15--12:46: Oscar Movies Are Still Apologetic About LGBT Characters
- 10/02/15--13:21: Demi Lovato Goes Nude And Makeup-Free For Vanity Fair
- 10/02/15--13:43: Why I'm Not Writing Azealia Banks Off Just Yet
- 10/02/15--14:10: Miley Cyrus Releases Gay Rights Anthem 'Hands Of Love'
What do you think of when you think of Rob Lowe? Hotness?
Shame on you.
In an interview with Vulture this week, the 51-year-old actor argued that Hollywood has a problem with the objectification of men, not just women.
"People go on and on about the objectification of women, and rightly so," Lowe said. "But what about the objectification of men? When was the last time you saw 'Grey’s Anatomy'?"
The topic is on Lowe's mind because of his new show, "The Grinder," on Fox, which premiered on Wednesday to solid reviews. In the comedy, he plays an actor who starred as a lawyer in a legal drama (also called "The Grinder") for years, before quitting the show in part because he felt objectified.
In the Vulture interview, Lowe mentions an upcoming scene from "The Grinder" in which his character tries to object to his objectification. Lowe explains that the creator of the show-within-the-show, played by Jason Alexander, asks him to take his shirt of "one too many times," so he gets upset. But when Alexander's character responds, "Man, you’re the Grinder. You’re the sex symbol. Don’t overthink this. Give the people what they want," Lowe's character reluctantly agrees to do a comedic striptease.
Lowe's protestations aside, the objectification of men in Hollywood is actually a topic that's gotten a fair amount of attention recently, in part because of the emphasis movies and TV shows like "Magic Mike" and, yes, Shonda Rhimes' "Grey's Anatomy" place on male beauty.
But not everyone thinks it's a bad thing. Lowe's "Parks and Recreation" co-star Chris Pratt, for example, said back in June that he hasn't been offended by the ogling he's gotten since he sprouted a six-pack.
"I think it’s appalling that for a long time only women were objectified, but I think if we really want to advocate for equality, it’s important to even things out," Pratt told The Guardian.
“Not objectify women less, but objectify men just as often as we objectify women," he continued. "There are a lot of women who got careers out of it, and I’m using it to my advantage. And at the end of the day, our bodies are objects."
Now, this last sentence seems to conflate two different meanings of the word "object." It's accurate to say that the human body is an "object" in the sense that it is a physical entity, but the verb "objectify" refers to the division between subject and object. When we say that objectification is a problem, we're saying that we shouldn't think of other people only in relation to our subjective desires, not that that we shouldn't point out that people have physical bodies.
Still, Pratt is onto something that Lowe glosses over: the objectification of female bodies is more problematic than the objectification of male bodies because of our history of thinking of women as nothing more than sex objects. On the other hand, Lowe would probably admit that point -- while insisting that neither is ultimately a good thing.
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When I was entering my sophomore year at Stanford University, I piled up my schedule with everything there was. Not only was I taking a heavy course load, I was also in two shows, and trying to work outside of school. In addition, within the first couple of weeks, one of my good friends went through a major life trauma. I wanted to be there for her as much as possible. However, when you're doing everything, something has to give. What gave was my health. I wasn't working out. I wasn't eating right. And above all, I wasn't sleeping.
I probably pulled an all-nighter a week, if not more. I was so exhausted I was falling asleep in class, on benches... under tables. By the end of the quarter I was a complete mess. I had never needed a vacation more. Starting in January, I vowed to take better care of myself.
I stuck to my promise! Yet, as the year went on, I began to get more and more tired. This didn't make sense to me, as I was sleeping around 8 hours a night. I wrote it off as sleep debt. However, by the time summer started, I would need to go lie down if I ever worked out. Sometimes, I would collapse in my car when I got back from the gym, and would sit there for 30 minutes before driving home. I was sad -- all of the time. And I just didn't have strength in the mornings to get out of bed.
Then one day, I had shortness of breath. This is an extremely uncomfortable situation where you feel as though you are not getting enough air into your body. It went away pretty quickly. The next day, it came back. But this time, it lasted for an hour...then two...then three. It got to the point where I woke up feeling like I couldn't breathe, and the feeling would last all day.
I pushed these thoughts aside. I was fine. I had to be fine. It didn't once cross my mind that I had a health issue.
A few weeks later, I was on a hike, and I fainted.
I went in for blood tests the next week. The results came back, and they said I was extremely anemic. My iron levels were so low it had affected my thyroid, my adrenals, my B-levels, and my hormones. They said that my iron levels had been low for a while, and had only just reached tipping point of getting severe. They asked me if there had been any point in the last year that I had maxed myself out. Specifically, if there was a period of time where I hadn't gotten a lot of sleep.
I told them all about my fall quarter at Stanford, and about the pressure I had put on myself. The doctors said that when I used up all of my energy, I had destroyed the levels of the enzyme that absorbs iron. It turns out my anemia was initially kick-started by my lack of sleep.
I had to have a 3-hour intravenous iron injection, and then started taking multiple supplements. After about a month, I began to get my energy back. Now, I look back on how I felt and I can't believe I was actually able to function with such low energy. I feel so much better now there is no comparison.
Going into this quarter, I have a lot of work on my plate. But despite it all, my number one priority is sleep.
Julia Roberts was spotted on the set of her new movie "Mother's Day" looking a lot like Vogue Editor-in-Chief Anna Wintour in a short, bobbed wig with blunt bangs and dark, oversized sunglasses.
The 47-year-old also stars alongside Jennifer Aniston and Kate Hudson in the Garry Marshall directed flick that continues in the same tradition as "New Year's Eve" and "Valentine's Day," featuring tons of celebrity cameos and interwoven stories.
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Nick Jonas has played two young gay men on TV this year, but the 23-year-old actor says there's more to what motivates his choices than a character's sexuality.
"In the case of 'Scream Queens,' there's comedy within the role and I think at its core it really is a social commentary about stereotypes and breaking down some of those barriers," Jonas told USA Today of his role in Ryan Murphy's Fox comedy playing gay frat brother Boone.
Jonas added that he doesn't consider "whether the character is gay or straight, but about what the story is and what the audience is going to get out of it."
As for playing closeted boxer Nate on DirecTV's "Kingdom," Jonas hopes his character's struggles might help others who can relate to what he goes through.
With 'Kingdom,' my character is going through a really different journey where he's struggling with who he is. I think that's a highly relatable story line that a lot of my fans, both gay and straight, have come and told me that that's been incredibly important for them: to see the journey he's on and to know they're not alone, whatever it is that they're going through in their life that makes them feel different or strange. There's real peace and a community and a story being told that feels honest and grounded.
The actor and performer recently said he is "honored" to play roles that impact the LGBT community, calling it a "blessing."
Works for us.
"Why the fuck am I doing this?"
That's the question Andrew Garfield asked during an interview with Vulture reporter Kyle Buchanan while promoting his latest film "99 Homes," about a father who struggles to get back the home his family was evicted from because of a greedy real estate mogul.
"Coming in today to do interviews, I’m like, Why?" he revealed. "I know that I’m an actor and it's part of the job, and I feel lucky I get to do that, but with the interviews, it’s such a weird thing. What do I have to say?"
Garfield actually had a lot to say, about inaction ("I just suddenly feel like my head is wrapped in cellophane. How do we wake up, how do I wake up, what do I do?") and the complexities of stardom ("I’m still fucked up in my own ways, and insecure, and scared, and don’t really know who I am."). He isn't sure just how much to reveal to the world.
"My priority is the work, and the work is dependent on people not knowing very much about me," he said. "So where’s the balance? Where’s the line that I have to walk, and we all have to walk? Because I do want to make a difference in the world, I really do, and that’s a really cheesy thing to want."
The problematic nature of celebrity culture is something Garfield has brought up in other recent interviews. While speaking with The Daily Beast, he testified against being anyone's idol.
“It goes back to this false worship thing. Being on the receiving end of that is what really tips me over the edge. That’s what made me really go, ‘We’re fucked.’ Because if you’re looking up to me in a way that’s unnatural, then you’re looking in the wrong place.”
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All the weed in the world probably couldn't mellow Snoop Dogg's disdain for Pittsburgh Steelers kicker Josh Scobee.
Snoop, a Steelers diehard, vented on Instagram after Scobee missed two field goals late in the fourth quarter against the Baltimore Ravens Thursday. Baltimore eventually won in overtime, 23-20.
"We need to get rid of that motherf***er," Snoop said in his refreshing analysis. You'll have to listen to the motherf***ing rest for yourselves:
Next time tell us what you really think, Snoop.
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Ronda Rousey is basically already a superhero, but now she might've gotten a little closer to playing one in the movies.
During a Reddit AMA in August, Rousey, the UFC bantamweight champion, told fans she'd like to vie for the role of Captain Marvel. This led to a deluge of fan art, headlines and plenty of big advocates of the idea. Though, the latest supporter may be the biggest of all.
"I love it," said Marvel Studios president Kevin Feige to IGN when asked about Rousey's campaign for the role.
Feige said casting for the Marvel movies is all about finding "the best person to inhabit the character." He explained, "Whether that is an actor like Chris Hemsworth who bulks up, or a wrestler like Dave Bautista who played Drax who ends up being an amazing performer, an amazing actor and a clever and witty and pointed comedic actor."
A number of actresses, including Emily Blunt and Bryce Dallas Howard, have already been rumored for the "Captain Marvel" movie, which is scheduled to come out in 2018. But in an interview with MTV, Feige said there wouldn't be any announcements this year.
Still, Feige also told MTV that fan lists can sometimes be "really enlightening." So keep that Rousey support coming!
"Captain Marvel" is set to hit theaters November 2018.
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When Miley Cyrus chopped off her hair sometime roughly around 2012, we knew the transition from Disney star to grown-up, edgy singer was complete. But on Friday, Cyrus shared a picture of a new look, which probably has something to do with the singer hosting "Saturday Night Live" this weekend.
If we didn't know better, seeing Miley clad in a long brown wig would make us think that it was a photo of the star's "Hannah Montana" days.
Be sure to check out Cyrus when she hosts (and performs) on SNL on Saturday, Oct. 3. The singer said she's hosting "with or without clothes," so we'll just have to tune in and see what happens.
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Recently, Matt Damon came under fire for making tone-deaf comments during an episode of HBO's "Project Greenlight." The actor (poorly) attempted to explain diversity in film while speaking with producer Effie Brown, a black woman who knows a thing or two about diversity (or lack there of) in Hollywood.
Damon later addressed his remarks, saying in part, "I am sorry that they offended some people, but, at the very least, I am happy that they started a conversation about diversity in Hollywood."
However pure his intentions, his apology was missing something pretty imperative: An actual apology.
Damon was later more contrite about his diversity comments in an interview with The Hollywood Reporter, but not before making another set of offensive remarks suggesting gay actors shouldn't come out.
Of course Damon isn't the only high-profile offender. There's a legacy of non-apologies in the public eye, from Jonah Hill to Miley Cyrus. The pattern is familiar, with perpetrators saying, "I'm sorry you're offended" rather than "I'm sorry I offended you."
Their behavior poses a pretty powerful question: Why do we have such a hard time owning up to our wrongdoings?
The secret to our apology aversion may lie in a neurological bias toward taking a rosy view of ourselves. According to social psychologist Elliot Aronson, co-author of the book Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me), our brains believe that we're always doing "the right thing" despite our behavior showing the contrary.
This sometimes creates mental tension, frequently referred to in psychology as cognitive dissonance, and occurs when our actions don't follow our beliefs. It's the same phenomenon that allows a smoker to both know cigarettes are unhealthy and still blow through two packs a day, Aronson wrote.
Many people naturally behave in a way that aligns with a certain self-concept, agreed Alex Lickerman, assistant vice president for the University of Chicago's student health and counseling services and author of The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self. So when we apologize for something we did or said, our subconscious feels somewhat fraudulent.
"It's admitting that you're not consistent with your self-concept, which is very difficult to tolerate," Lickerman told The Huffington Post. "If you claim you're not a bigot, or whatever it is you identify with, to apologize for doing the contrary is to admit you did those things."
But it doesn't have to be this way. The key to getting better at apologizing is freeing ourselves from labels, according to Lickerman.
"Just because you failed doesn't mean you're a failure," he said. "To get better at saying you're sorry, you first need to disconnect from the idea that a mistake turns you into someone you know you're not."
There are also a few other pointers to keep in mind when it comes time to fess up to an error, Lickerman explained. Here are a few hallmarks of a good apology:
Ultimately, Lickerman said, apologizing for something we know is wrong will help clear that tension that cognitive dissonance creates. And isn't that a lot easier than living our lives defending poor behavior?
Just a little food for thought for Damon's next press tour.
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This article is the first in a series written by Piper Perabo in partnership with WhoSay and the IRC about her experience with Syrian refugees in Greece.
How bad would things have to get, for you to spend all of your money so your family could cram into a flimsy, rubber boat with 40 other people?
Imagine you can't swim, and nor can anyone else in your family.
It's night, you have no lights, and you must travel six miles across of choppy seas. There is no captain. A man who has never even been on a boat will navigate. They tell you to sit on the dinghy's inflated edge with your son on your lap. Your husband must stand, and you cannot even see your brother, because it's so dark.
How bad would things have to be, before you put your family in that boat? How bad would things have to get, before you actually felt lucky to get a spot on that boat?
A few weeks ago, I went to Greece with the International Rescue Committee -- (the IRC) -- a global humanitarian aid , relief, and development nongovernmental organization -- to help out in any way I could. The Greek island of Lesbos is the closest to the shores of Turkey, so thousands of people arrive on these flimsy, rubber boats each day. On Lesbos, both refugees and inhabitants need all the help they can get.
We arrived by plane at in the morning. The beaches looked as if they were painted orange because of the thousands of life jacket left on shore. Refugees carry only what they absolutely need. They discard their life jackets next to the deflated dinghies.
(IRC Voice Piper Perabo visits Molyvos in Lesvos Greece to witness the arrival of refugees. While on the beach she helped clean up as well as distribute fresh fruit and water to recent arrivals.)
Hundreds of thousands of people have risked their lives on those boats. I witnessed them arriving during the day and in the middle of the night. On one occasion, I saw a woman cry out in relief and pass her children to strangers on shore as her boat struck land. One man fell to his knees on the rocky beach, raising his hands and sobbing in triumph. I have never seen anything like it.
(As you know, not everyone makes it across the water. I met a young Greek woman, who raises money to bury those who have drowned. This is not her job, but someone needed to do it. She even attempts to locate their families on Facebook, to tell then, gently, what has happened.)
Those who reach shore must cross the island to the ferry port, a grueling 40-mile walk in wet shoes on mountain roads, to the transit center so they can arrange travel to their next destination.
(Refugees land on the beach in Lesbos Greece.)
What's strange is that Greece isn't a developing country--it's Europe. In fact, Lesbos is a desirable tourist destination. The juxtaposition of vacationers heading to the beach in their swimsuits, next to soaking wet refugees carrying their meager possessions was surreal.
The walk to the ferry port along the coast is long and hot. There are no stores, no toilets, no water... just dry earth and olive trees. If you're a healthy young man with good shoes, you can make the trek in almost one day, but if you're elderly or walking with children, it can take up to three days.
Once they've made it across the island, travelers must register as refugees--a confusing and ever-changing process that can take anywhere from one day to five days--before they can take a ferry off the island. Many people sleep on the streets in small camping tents while waiting for their papers to be processed.
(Refugees walk to the northern part of Lesbos to continue their journey north into Europe.)
During the few days I was there, the IRC staff, along with local officials and volunteers, helped register more than 15,000 people. But that's not all they did. They greeted incoming boats, organized buses for people traversing the mountain roads, cleaned the transit camp, and provided shelter and assistance to the most vulnerable--all the while treating people with dignity and humanity.
What stood out to me most was just how incredibly patient and full of good will the Greek people and the refugees were after all they have been through. I got to know dozens of them during my time on the island and was moved by their kindness, sheer determination, and concern for one another.
They had made it so far, but in fact, they had only just begun.
Founded in 1933 at the request of Albert Einstein, the International Rescue Committee offers emergency aid and long-term assistance to refugees and those displaced by war, persecution or natural disaster. The IRC resettles refugees and helps them become self-sufficient.
Whether you've just started your first job, you're early in your career or you're an old pro, it can be too easy to get overwhelmed by the day-to-day assignments and lose sight of what makes you passionate about your work. We all need a little inspiration sometimes to remind ourselves of our career goals and what we need to do to get ourselves there.
Here's a look at 14 seriously awesome people with vastly different careers -- from chef to tech exec -- and their advice on how to be the best at what you do.
So go ahead, plough on until you can smell the sweat of hard work in your hair, like Mindy (below). And if you need another lift, check out these 100 inspirational quotes from business leaders, as well as these 100 motivational quotes that will inspire you to be successful.
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In a new episode, "Scream Queens" is giving fans the ultimate Halloween treat by parodying Swift's gift giving video. Entertainment Weekly premiered a sneak peek at the episode's opening sequence, which shows Chanel (Roberts) celebrating the season by sending her Instagram followers gory Halloween gifts (including some bad blood). This way they can "bask in the warm glow" of what it feels like to love her.
Merry Swiftmas Chanel-O-Ween!
"Scream Queens" airs Tuesdays at 9:00 p.m. ET on Fox.
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It takes a lot of time and makeup to look like Kylie Jenner, but one fan has it down to a science.
Gabrielle Waters, 19, of Hartland, Michigan not only idolizes the 18-year-old Jenner, but she also bears an uncanny resemblance to the reality star.
Waters, who works at a retirement home, insists that it doesn't take a lot of makeup to look like her favorite celebrity, and her beauty routine happens to be a lot like Jenner's. Waters says she uses fake eyelashes and the reality star's favorite lip liner to achieve the perfect pout.
"What I like about Kylie is that she is very beautiful and encourages girls to do what they love and be happy," Waters, who often gets stopped in the street for her extreme likeness to Jenner, told the Mirror.
"I like how she's independent, how she's bought her own home and has a whole bunch of clothing lines she's attached to."
In 2014, a fashion and beauty blogger made headlines for her resemblance to Jenner's sister, Kim Kardashian. Marianna Hewitt, who once interviewed Kardashian herself in 2011, has said the starlet is "beautiful, hard working and such a sweet person."
Take a look at her pics below:
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Seth Meyers took over the NBC late late-night spot from his Saturday Night Live buddy Jimmy Fallon over a year and a half ago.
Many of Academy Award season's so-called notable films, Buzzfeed says, sanitize social issues and historical injustices, using characters as symbols rather than as people unto themselves.
Demi Lovato stripped down and bared it all for a no-makeup, no-retouching photo shoot with Vanity Fair.
"What does it mean to be confident?" Lovato said. "It means letting go, being authentic, saying I don’t give a fuck and this is who I am. I want to show the side of me that’s real, that’s liberated, that’s free. What if we do a photo shoot where it’s totally raw? Super sexy, but no makeup, no fancy lighting, no retouching and no clothing. Let’s do it here, let’s do it now.”
She looks gorgeous in the spread and the behind-the-scenes video on set in a hotel room.
"It's empowering," the 23-year-old, who has battled eating disorders, says in the video, "and it shows other women you can get to a place where you can overcome the obstacles of body-image issues. You can feel comfortable and confident in your skin."
Head over to Vanity Fair to see more.
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The hilarious "Brooklyn Nine-Nine" debuted it's third season last Sunday, and fans already saw some major changes to the precinct and the lovable law enforcers therein: Captain Holt is now relegated to pigeon mascot-naming in the NYPD's ineffective PR department with faithful assistant and "the human form of the 100 emoji," Gina Linetti. Bill Hader enters as Captain Seth Dozerman, complete with tablets that track productivity. Amy and Jake are in L-U-V and are, finally, not afraid to say it. If the premiere was any indication, we're in for a few more surprises before season's end.
Grounding us in all the newness is Stephanie Beatriz, who plays the no-nonsense, leather-jacket wearing Rosa Diaz. Beatriz spoke on the phone with The Huffington Post to give us insight into the new season, her character's tough exterior and how she pursues her interests outside of acting.
What was it like having Bill Hader as your police captain?
Hilarious, adorable and extremely humble. I complimented him, obviously, on his work in Amy Schumer’s film, “Trainwreck.” He was so good in that. And he’s so humble about it, like, “Oh, thanks, thanks for seeing it,” like it was some little movie, and I’m like, “Dude. That was a big movie.” It’s funny, because he breaks a lot, which is really fun to have on set. He’s so joyous in his work that it was really infectious.
Will we see, in Season 3, the captain position at the Nine-Nine sort of become this Defense Against the Dark Arts Hogwarts situation? [Spoiler: Hader's character dies the same episode he's introduced.]
Ha! Um, I love that you’re a "Harry Potter" fan like myself. I think, definitely, there’s some shift ups happening. I mean, as you’ve already seen in the first episode, that the Vulture’s back. I know the squad doesn’t want him to stay for long, so I’m pretty sure they’re going to do their best to get him out of that position, whether or not that will be seen in the rest of the season, I can’t say more than that. You wanna hate the Vulture, so how long is he gonna last? That’s a really good question. So we’ll get to see it all get played out.
When you started the show, how much of Rosa was described to you, and how much of her character did you bring to it?
When I auditioned for the role of Rosa, she was actually called Megan. The name changed after I won the role. When I auditioned, there were just little scenes that were written. There wasn’t a full pilot that I got to see at that point. So I had to make predictions based on what was written, and there was a great scene where the camera’s on Rosa -- kind of one of the flashbacks -- she’s sitting around the precinct and it’s her birthday and somebody hands her a gift. She opens the gift and pulls out a sweater, and the sweater looks exactly like the sweater that she’s got on. And the lines were: “What the hell is this? What makes you idiots think that I would ever wear something like this?” I thought, OK, that’s really clear as to who she is. She doesn’t take shit from anybody, she knows herself really well, and regardless of whether it's logical to other people, she’s gonna stand by her decisions.
Some of the further characterizations like the leather jacket, and the all black [clothes], that came from me. It’s logical that that’s who she’d be, so I went through my closet and pulled out my badass leather jacket, and my cool, big black boots, and my jeans with the leather on the side, all that stuff came from what I thought she was gonna look like. I’m not ever trying to put myself in somebody else’s box, you just have to sort of go, what would be the most logical, the most rational, the most exciting to me? That’s sort of where I started with her. Physically, I think Rosa always looks like maybe she just stepped out of a Whitesnake video.
Do you think it’s important to have a female character on TV who’s as unapologetic as Rosa?
Yeah! I mean, I think particularly for women, it can be very difficult to be labeled a “bitch.” You know? Tina Fey has really said it best in her book: “Bitches get shit done!” It can be hard to say what you think and put yourself out there in that way. I mean, it’s important to see characters, for example, like the ones Shonda Rhimes writes, seeing strong female characters that go after what they need and want in life. It’s important for those stories to be told because they’re real stories. There are badass women all around us, all the time. Those kinds of pictures need to be reflected on television. Not only because it’s awesome to see them be badass, but also because they reflect real people.
Obviously, Rosa’s a really blown-up version of that, but I think that it’s really fun to see a woman in that kind of role. Granted, you don’t want to run into just archetypes, but the writers have done a really great job in the last season, and this season, of letting [Rosa’s] veneer crack a little bit, you know, she’s not the Terminator. Even the Terminator has feelings! So I think it will be fun to see some of her vulnerabilities come out. She’s always gonna be badass Rosa, but she’s got some feelings in there, too.
There are badass women all around us, all the time. Those kinds of pictures need to be reflected on television."
Especially with her relationship with Nick Cannon’s character, we’ve sort of seen more of her tenderness come out, slowly.
Yeah, truly. And also her friendship with Amy, her friendship with Gina; I mean, there’s tenderness in there in her weird way of expressing it. For example, that time that she went to Charles’ ex-wife’s engagement party with a dress that she’d never be caught dead in. She did that for her friend, so that her friend would feel supported. She and Amy set up [Gina’s] apartment in the first season so that she would feel safer; she put locks on her windows and timers on her lights. It’s not always about a hug for her, but it’s always about showing her friends that she’s always there for them.
What female characters, while you were growing up, stuck out for you?
Well, definitely Elaine from “Seinfeld.” I mean, that to me is one of the greatest female characters ever. Also, sort of like a very interesting character in that like, in that show she’s part of a crew, kind of a dude crew. And she’s allowed to have all the female emotions she wanted -- all the human emotions she wanted. It spans the breadth of craziness, vulnerability, ridiculousness. It was very rare that it’d be like, “Oh, she’s the only girl on this crew.” She’s just part of the group, and I love that she wasn’t just defined by her gender, she was defined more by her character -- or lack thereof. [Laughs] [Julia Louis-Dreyfus] is just an absolutely brilliant actress.
You used to live in New York. Are there things about that experience that you use in the show?
It probably has filtered in there somewhere. It’s been a minute since I lived there -- I moved to Los Angeles in 2011 -- but there are things about living in Brooklyn that are reflected in our show. For example, the proximity to people, like there’s always people around. In LA, a lot of times you’re in a car, just by yourself all day running from this thing to this thing. In New York, if you do have a day that’s filled with shit like that, you’re up in everyone’s faces all the time. You see that a lot in the precinct: you’re never really alone unless you’ve got a scene in the interrogation room. Especially in that first episode [of Season 3], with Nick and Amy trying to keep their burgeoning relationship secret within this very crowded precinct, it’s gonna come out eventually. That’s the main thing that New York taught me is like, whatever it is, it’s on display for everyone to see. Having a bad day, crying in the subway -- 85 people are gonna see it. It’s a lot of like, everything that you’re going through is there for everyone else to see. And that is definitely reflected in the show.
I also wanted to ask about your spot on the LA City Municipal Dance Squad. What drew you to audition for them?
I started following their Instagram. I used to be on dance team in high school, it was called drill team in Texas. And when I started doing theater sophomore year, I had to make a decision which thing I was gonna follow. It was a big shift because I sort of had all these friends on dance squad, and when I started to do theater, my whole identity shifted. Bascially, the popular kids stopped hanging out with me and I found my place within the weirdos of the theater group and that felt like home.
I’ve always missed dancing, so joining the dance squad was like, “Oh, it’s a bunch of weirdos who also like dance!” They’re all comedy people, and actors -- I don’t know if you’ve seen any videos of Angela [Trimbur] on YouTube, but they’re ridiculous, she’s so funny. She will dance like no one’s watching. So I just thought, what do I have to lose? And it’s been one of the most fun things I’ve ever done in my life. Plus, it’s led me to some really amazing friends. It’s been a really cool experience, because not only is it a great workout, but it’s also a way to bond with women. It’s hard to make friends as an adult. You gotta work at it, you know? You have to ask people to lunch, and if you don’t know them, it’s weird. It’s really like, “I don’t know how to make friends!” It’s so much easier in college. And [the dance squad] is a way to unite girls with similar interests.
It’s a cool thing to see that you can take the creative drive and use it for acting and also dancing.
The cool thing about that kind of stuff -- extracurriculars, if you will, is that you don’t have to do just one thing. Some people want to say, “Oh, you’re just this, or you’re just that,” when it’s like, I don’t know. I do that, and then I also have these other things that I love and that I want to experience.
Are you still filming the third season?
Yeah, we’re filming! We’re doing Episode 7 and then next will be Episode 8, but we’ll be shooting probably up until the spring.
Are you involved in any other projects you can tell me about?
This summer I wrapped “Pee-wee’s Big Holiday” for Netflix, the new one produced by Judd Apatow, which I’m super excited about. It’s going to be really fun. Lots of ridiculous, fun memories from shooting that. I’m part of the girl gang in that with Jess Pohly and Alia Shawkat. Total departure from Rosa. I’m slightly unrecognizable, which might be kind of fun.
One last very important question: were you team “Petey” or team “Polly” for the NYPD pigeon mascot -- or did you like Captain Holt’s Pepper O’Pigeon?
I really liked Pepper O’Pigeon. It was the obvious choice. Pepper all the way. I mean, Captain Holt’s rarely wrong about anything.
This interview has been edited and condensed.
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US rapper Azealia Banks has been in and out of the gossip sheets for what seems like an eternity at this point, and for almost exclusively non-music related reasons. This isn't all that strange given the intermittent nature of her music career, thus far.
She had burst onto the music scene in 2011, with the song '212' and great things were promised. Understandably too -- '212' was brassy and ballsy lyricism and a lot of fun to boot. Then nothing major happened until 2014, when the album, Broke with Expensive Taste, was finally released. This would have conceivably been a protracted, frustrating experience for the artist; being uncertain as to how to get her musical labors out to her eagerly awaiting audience. It appeared as if she took to venting this frustration by simply languishing on Twitter, lambasting this and that, while usually making some very salient points about race.
The latest in a long line of her detracting Twitter tirades is that she has compared the LGBTQ community to "gay white KKK's," after she was recorded and reported by TMZ to have called a flight attendant a "faggot." The responses have been less vicious than I had predicted, despite Banks urging of LGBTQ people to "Get some pink hoods and unicorns and rally down rodeo drive."
Nonetheless, there is this constant presence of an underlying urging of us to get angry about her words. It's tempting to do so because growing up LGBTQ is tough -- growing up any way is difficult. However, I wouldn't want to be a young gay man again because I've already done it once and that was enough, thank you very much.
Regardless of her career trajectory, Banks has access to a lot of young people's hearts and minds and negative imagery doesn't help to develop those hearts and minds into those of accepting and tolerant adults. I know this as well as any LGBTQ person who grew up consuming mainstream media does: most of it either doesn't like us, or just doesn't care about us. It *is* interesting to wonder why is this so? And how can it change?
Singular and uncompromising in his truth. FLAMBOYANT The Quentin Crisp Story dir. Roland Emmerich (Stonewall) pic.twitter.com/ytrzZ87YLB— not Roland Emmerich (@RolandMovies) September 26, 2015
I also empathize with why any LGBTQ person would want to direct their vitriol at her: After all, Banks regurgitates these casually homophobic remarks I grew up hearing, even from loved ones; she sounds like the girl in primary school that told my sister that I was a 'sissy;' she could be the man who broke two of my fingers in a nightclub for the unforgivable offense of wearing a pink vest and being skinny; she grates like that friend-of-a-friend who can inspire me to leave a birthday celebration early so I can go home to snuggle up with a very cute and inviting cat.
Due to my "faggoty" history, I was ready to be, yet again, outraged by Banks' behavior. Then I watched the TMZ video. It was boring and inconsequential -- a service dispute on an airline that, at a point, erupted into anger from a place of belligerence -- the language Banks had used at the height of the dispute was incorrect and uncalled for. And that's just the point I'd like to underline: Banks was simply incorrect and I wouldn't want a hypothetical child of mine learning and using the language she had used in that situation.
Here's what language and actions like this do: whenever I am directly discriminated against due to my sexuality, I check myself on my reaction. Usually, Instead of repressing, I tend to raise the level of my gay -- whether I write a sketch about a very, very gay thing, update and abridge Mrs. Dalloway, or compile a research paper about gay experiences, or just whimsically and totally "gay up" my public social media accounts -- I do realize that when I do these things, they are reactive choices; they are not a natural behavioral progression, but more often than not, I do end up creating something positive out of it.
So maybe it works both ways, yet also conversely: Bank's social media responses to those calling her out on her homophobic language have been unequivocally combative and energy consuming. She has gone from calling distinct individuals faggots, to calling every white "faggot" everywhere a faggot and that's a lot of energy creating essentially nothing. It is notable that she has consistently and unapologetically used homophobic language (despite the fact that she identifies as bisexual) and has also stated that she is pro-choice, yet she doesn't agree with allowing healthcare access to women who have had more than two abortions.
Here are some points to check:
1) She might need to be proven wrong about the LGBTQ community not being inclusive enough (yes, the KKK analogy is extreme but the "no fats, no fems, etc.." script does actually happen and oh, so did the movie Stonewall).
2) She is absolutely not pro-choice if she wants to segregate and disqualify some women from equal access to healthcare options. This point is more of a signature reason of how Azealia Banks can make me cringe when I read about the latest thing she has done or said.
However, she is hardly Robert Mugabe and she does not make me angry. She's only potentially a Bill or Hillary Clinton, who weren't that interested in affording dignity to LGBTQ people not so long ago either. People can change. Right?
This summer, a friend mentioned to me an incident which I do not specifically recall: this incident placed a much younger me on a bus and conspiratorially using the term "faggots" in a negative way in reference to two other young men on board.
I face-palmed because I can honestly admit that, at that time of this recollection, it would certainly not have been an isolated incident of internalized homophobia on my part. A slew of other examples rushed to my mind where I said things that I regret, based on internal struggles that I would have (mis)directed at my own community.
I recalled another occasion, after a rehearsal at youth theatre, a matter of months before I met my first boyfriend, when I disparagingly and offhandedly used the word "gay" in front of the only out queer girl in the production. I saw her bristle but then quickly brush it off and then treat me kindly. I immediately regretted my words and simply resolved to start sorting out my own bullshit. That was my singular turning point and I stress that although I began to change my behavior, it did not happen overnight.
There are bittersweet silver linings to the diminishing words and actions that LGBTQ people might face in formative years: for example, my parent who doesn't think I deserve the same rights as my other siblings is still inordinately proud of the queer-oriented work that I do; that girl who called me a sissy to my sister (yet not directly to me) is responsible for the fact that I now always stick up for my friends when they aren't there to defend themselves; that man in the nightclub is the reason why I cut little nipple holes in that pink vest to make it even more offensive; and that friend-of-a-friend at the birthday party probably doesn't even have a cat, and if they did, I bet it ran away from home anyway.
Remarkably, the young woman who I had made cringe with my offhand remarks in youth theatre became a lovingly impartial and supportive face over time, as I negotiated my first same-sex relationship and the social 'newness' that came with it. I feel as if that mattered a lot to me back then.
I had been left theoretical space to work through that nasty general programmed misconception of what it meant to be gay and how I could apply that meaning to compliment my own uniqueness. I still don't understand it all but turning isolating fear into bravery was certainly a routine requirement in developing my identity and in appreciating those of other LGBTQ experiences.
Banks, the person on the Twitter, honestly sounds like she just needs to get to know some good guys, or at least a community that may well bristle but then refrain from interminably condemning her on a snowballing scale of reactive mutual rage. And she obviously also has the option to do some work herself -- I've done some of that very work without changing who I am, but rather, by accepting and adapting (sometimes magnifying).
Working on myself absolutely hasn't resolved how the world feels about me, and that doesn't always feel ok. Nonetheless, I hold on to the fact that it has given me access to other benefits.
The greatest of those is that it has instilled in me an enduring love and a focused interest in the great ideas and creative offerings that LGBTQ people can represent and produce from experiences that their identities might instigate.
So yes, I would still love for Azealia Banks to be included as one of those amazing creators someday. In the interim, reaction may well be in order but do consider kindness. Especially when it's entirely possible that it's someone that may be fighting a similar battle to yours.
Kaley Cuoco is keeping busy since splitting from husband Ryan Sweeting last week.
"The Big Bang Theory" star made her first red carpet appearance since the couple announced they were ending their marriage of less than two years. The 29-year-old was all smiles at the Longines International Races Gala on Thursday in LA.
The star shared a photo of her look from the event on Instagram and captioned it, "I had a lovely time at the #longines gala last night! #littleblackdress."
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The singer just released an emotional new song called "Hands of Love" about the struggle for equality. It's on the soundtrack for the new movie "Freeheld," which tells the true story of a New Jersey police officer with terminal cancer, played by Julianne Moore, fighting a legal battle to secure pension benefits for her domestic partner, played by Ellen Page.
You can listen to the song here:
The lyrics of the song, which was written by openly gay producer Linda Perry, are a little abstract, but suggest that the gay rights movement is driven by love and solidarity, ultimately allowing LGBT people to gain strength by stepping into their identity.
"Hands of Love" is the second LGBT-themed song Cyrus has released in the past month -- though it's very different from the first, "Bang Me Box," an explicit ode to lesbian sex.
Cyrus, who was recently rumored to be dating Victoria's Secret model Stella Maxwell, came out as pansexual in August. She also recently said, in an interview with Paper magazine, that she had told her mother that she was attracted to both men and women when she was 14 years old.
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