"Real Housewives of New Jersey" stars Melissa and Joe Gorga are giving their tenant the boot ... claiming the guy owes 'em $80,000 in back rent.
'Real Housewives' Stars To Renter -- You're $80K In The Hole
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5 Celeb Moms Who Battled Postpartum Depression -- One Even Feared She Would Kill Her Family
Postpartum depression affects up to 13% of women -- including these celebrity moms rounded up by The Stir.
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Did Jada Pinkett Smith Ban Kendall Jenner From Her Home?
“Jada Pinkett Smith Bans Brat Kendall,” reads the headline of a Star story that claims Kendall Jenner is no longer welcome in Smith’s home because of alleged bad manners.
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Megan Fox Rocks A Bikini For Cosmopolitan, Reveals Which Star She Finds Sexy
Bet you can't guess Megan Fox's celebrity crush.
As the cover star of Cosmopolitan's August issue, the 28-year-old revealed to the magazine which star she finds sexy.
"I think Ellen [DeGeneres] is sexy," said Fox. "Maybe it’s the way she gives off the impression that she’s anti-'the business' even though she’s engaging in it. And humor is always sexy."
When Fox visited DeGeneres' talk show in May, the actress joked that the show was an aphrodisiac. "The first time I was here, I was pregnant and no one knew it and then the second time I just had my baby, but I got pregnant again, so you're sort of like a fertility good luck charm," Fox told DeGeneres. "If you want to get pregnant, come see Ellen."
See more of Megan Fox's interview online and in Cosmopolitan's August issue, on newsstands July 8.
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As the cover star of Cosmopolitan's August issue, the 28-year-old revealed to the magazine which star she finds sexy.
"I think Ellen [DeGeneres] is sexy," said Fox. "Maybe it’s the way she gives off the impression that she’s anti-'the business' even though she’s engaging in it. And humor is always sexy."
When Fox visited DeGeneres' talk show in May, the actress joked that the show was an aphrodisiac. "The first time I was here, I was pregnant and no one knew it and then the second time I just had my baby, but I got pregnant again, so you're sort of like a fertility good luck charm," Fox told DeGeneres. "If you want to get pregnant, come see Ellen."
See more of Megan Fox's interview online and in Cosmopolitan's August issue, on newsstands July 8.
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How 9 Influential Women Responded To The Hobby Lobby Ruling
In the wake of the Supreme Court's ruling that closely held businesses are not required to provide contraceptive coverage for their employees, famous women are voicing their disappointment.
Politicians, celebrities and other public figures took to Twitter or shared their opinions in interviews. Perhaps most notably, Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg released a 35-page dissent in which she suggested that the court had ventured into a "minefield."
Using their public platforms to add depth and breadth to the news, here's what some of the women who have spoken out so far had to say:
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Politicians, celebrities and other public figures took to Twitter or shared their opinions in interviews. Perhaps most notably, Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg released a 35-page dissent in which she suggested that the court had ventured into a "minefield."
Using their public platforms to add depth and breadth to the news, here's what some of the women who have spoken out so far had to say:
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These Interview Outtakes With '90s Stars Are Pure Nostalgia
On July 6th, National Geographic will air a three-night program called "The '90s: The Last Great Decade?" because a decade that had room for both grunge and Bill Clinton is worth celebrating.
NatGeo's website states the show will retrace major events of the '90s through storytelling and 120 original interviews -- "from unsung heroes behind the decade's most riveting stories to the biggest names in politics, tech, movies and music."
Presenting just a few glimpses into the interview outtakes with your favorite celebrities that helped define the decade:
James Van Der Beek
Vanilla Ice
Courtney Love
Ice Cube
Roseanne Barr
Matthew Perry
Shannen Doherty
Rob Lowe
Susan Sarandon
Brian Williams
NatGeo's website states the show will retrace major events of the '90s through storytelling and 120 original interviews -- "from unsung heroes behind the decade's most riveting stories to the biggest names in politics, tech, movies and music."
Presenting just a few glimpses into the interview outtakes with your favorite celebrities that helped define the decade:
James Van Der Beek
Vanilla Ice
Courtney Love
Ice Cube
Roseanne Barr
Matthew Perry
Shannen Doherty
Rob Lowe
Susan Sarandon
Brian Williams
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Mariah Carey Is Just Like Us, Except For When She's Not
Oh Mariah Carey, you couldn't be ordinary if you tried.
The 44-year-old diva perhaps strived for normalcy when she shared an Instagram photo of herself walking the dog on July 1. With no makeup on, Carey seems like your average New York pet owner. (Let's ignore the stilettos for right now.)
Here she is again, looking like your average busy mother of two as she poses with her adorable kids in their PJs:
And again, Carey is just spending some quality time with the twins in the great outdoors:
But what's that in the background? The Empire State Building? Oh right, because she has a jacuzzi on the roof of her Manhattan penthouse. What, you don't?
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The 44-year-old diva perhaps strived for normalcy when she shared an Instagram photo of herself walking the dog on July 1. With no makeup on, Carey seems like your average New York pet owner. (Let's ignore the stilettos for right now.)
Here she is again, looking like your average busy mother of two as she poses with her adorable kids in their PJs:
And again, Carey is just spending some quality time with the twins in the great outdoors:
But what's that in the background? The Empire State Building? Oh right, because she has a jacuzzi on the roof of her Manhattan penthouse. What, you don't?
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UK Immigration Investigates Emma Watson For Employing Foreign Housekeeper
A magic wand isn't getting Emma Watson out of this one.
The 24-year-old actress is under investigation for allegedly bringing her American housekeeper to work in London without proper documentation, according to The Independent. The report alleges that the maid worked for Watson from September 2013 to February 2014, despite carrying only a tourist visa, which does not permit non-citizens to work in the U.K.
If found guilty, Watson could face a £10,000 (approximately $17,000) civil penalty.
The 24-year-old actress is under investigation for allegedly bringing her American housekeeper to work in London without proper documentation, according to The Independent. The report alleges that the maid worked for Watson from September 2013 to February 2014, despite carrying only a tourist visa, which does not permit non-citizens to work in the U.K.
If found guilty, Watson could face a £10,000 (approximately $17,000) civil penalty.
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If Ariana Grande Had A 'Problem' In 20 Different Musical Styles
Ariana Grande's smash hit "Problem" is virtually everywhere under the sun this summer, and we bet you think you've heard it every which way.
But we guarantee you haven't heard it in 20 different musical styles.
That's right, folks: Anthony Vincent of Ten Second Songs is at it again. His "20 musical style" covers of Katy Perry's "Dark Horse" and Jason Derulo's "Talk Dirty" impressed us, but his cover of "Problem" is equally amazing. It includes everything from Destiny's Child to Incubus. Plus, DMX makes a fabulous cameo during Iggy Azalea's verse.
We definitely have one less problem after watching this.
But we guarantee you haven't heard it in 20 different musical styles.
That's right, folks: Anthony Vincent of Ten Second Songs is at it again. His "20 musical style" covers of Katy Perry's "Dark Horse" and Jason Derulo's "Talk Dirty" impressed us, but his cover of "Problem" is equally amazing. It includes everything from Destiny's Child to Incubus. Plus, DMX makes a fabulous cameo during Iggy Azalea's verse.
We definitely have one less problem after watching this.
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9 Things Celebs Can Teach Us About Heartbreak
When it comes to dealing with a breakup, celebs are just like us. Sure, they're rich and beloved by millions of Twitter followers, but at the end of the day, they deal with heartbreak the same way we do: crying into a bowl of ice cream, blaring sad, sad music and struggling to put on non-yoga pants.
Below, nine celebrities share the wisdom they've learned from the roughest of post-breakup days.
1. It's true what they say; getting over the heartbreak doesn't happen overnight.
"When I was first going through my separation, someone said to me, 'It will take you half as long as you were in the relationship before you'll feel better.' And I wanted to knock them out cold across the table. Because, of course, I was in agony. And the last thing I wanted to think was that I was going to stay that way for a long time. But interestingly enough, it is over four years later -- we were together eight years -- and I finally feel like, cool. I feel better." -Uma Thurman
2. Know that it's going to feel awful.
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"I was crawling on the floor. I remember throwing up. I remember being on the floor... I have never felt anything quite like that. It was so visceral. It's like someone has killed you and you have to live through it and watch it happen. It was awful." -Emma Stone
3. Give yourself time to grieve, but don't overdo it.
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"You can allow yourself 72 hours of wallowing time. Then you've got to get into the gym, stop eating the ice cream and move on." -Jennifer Love Hewitt
4. While you're single, focus on loving yourself a little more.
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"I think I've finally learned the biggest lesson of all. You've got to love yourself first. You've got to be OK on your own before you're OK with someone else. You've got to value yourself and know that you're worth everything. And until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can't really have a healthy relationship." -Jennifer Lopez
5. Get some shut eye.
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"Chances are you weren’t sleeping soundly when the news of your breakup first broke. I know that I get particularly restless when I’m stressed about something or going through a tough time. Make sure you are logging in enough hours with your pillow by taking the natural supplement Melatonin, drinking sleepy time tea, or even eating sleep-inducing foods. Your red, puffy eyes will not look any better with dark bags underneath, and not sleeping will make the days ahead even more difficult than they already are. Plus, sleeping will give your mind rest from all the overthinking it has been doing and it will give you clarity about what has happened with your relationship." -Lauren Conrad
6. Realize you'll be stronger for surviving heartbreak.
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"You don't want to feel that when a marriage ends, your life is over. You can survive anything. Compared to what other people are surviving out there in the world, this is not so bad, in the grand scheme of things ... But s--- happens. You joke and say, 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.'" -Jennifer Aniston
7. Own up to the part you played in the breakup.
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"You see a lot of people play this blame game. Blame, blame, blame. You know? And it's a really easy thing to do, and I'm certainly guilty of it. [You have to] look at yourself and go, 'What part of this do I need to own? Which part of this is my responsibility?' And that's the painful work that you have to go through to hopefully get some real life knowledge out of it." -Reese Witherspoon
8. Use the past relationship to map out what you want and don't want in your next relationship.
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"A lot of therapy has happened and a lot of understanding and growth. Sometimes you have to go through all this s--t to get your grips on life and figure out what the next boundaries in your love life are going to be. You have to go through the mud in order to find that peaceful place. In the long run, it was necessary for me to have more of a teammate." -Katy Perry
9. Don't push new love away.
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"I think the thing that I have learned is that a bad love experience is no reason to fear a new love experience. But you have to be very honest at every single stage with the person about how you've been hurt, and hopefully they will be supportive about whatever it is that you have to go through...Everybody has bad relationships and, at the end of the day, they are just a great way to set yourself up for a good relationship." -Anne Hathaway
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Below, nine celebrities share the wisdom they've learned from the roughest of post-breakup days.
1. It's true what they say; getting over the heartbreak doesn't happen overnight.
"When I was first going through my separation, someone said to me, 'It will take you half as long as you were in the relationship before you'll feel better.' And I wanted to knock them out cold across the table. Because, of course, I was in agony. And the last thing I wanted to think was that I was going to stay that way for a long time. But interestingly enough, it is over four years later -- we were together eight years -- and I finally feel like, cool. I feel better." -Uma Thurman
2. Know that it's going to feel awful.
"I was crawling on the floor. I remember throwing up. I remember being on the floor... I have never felt anything quite like that. It was so visceral. It's like someone has killed you and you have to live through it and watch it happen. It was awful." -Emma Stone
3. Give yourself time to grieve, but don't overdo it.
"You can allow yourself 72 hours of wallowing time. Then you've got to get into the gym, stop eating the ice cream and move on." -Jennifer Love Hewitt
4. While you're single, focus on loving yourself a little more.
"I think I've finally learned the biggest lesson of all. You've got to love yourself first. You've got to be OK on your own before you're OK with someone else. You've got to value yourself and know that you're worth everything. And until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can't really have a healthy relationship." -Jennifer Lopez
5. Get some shut eye.
"Chances are you weren’t sleeping soundly when the news of your breakup first broke. I know that I get particularly restless when I’m stressed about something or going through a tough time. Make sure you are logging in enough hours with your pillow by taking the natural supplement Melatonin, drinking sleepy time tea, or even eating sleep-inducing foods. Your red, puffy eyes will not look any better with dark bags underneath, and not sleeping will make the days ahead even more difficult than they already are. Plus, sleeping will give your mind rest from all the overthinking it has been doing and it will give you clarity about what has happened with your relationship." -Lauren Conrad
6. Realize you'll be stronger for surviving heartbreak.
"You don't want to feel that when a marriage ends, your life is over. You can survive anything. Compared to what other people are surviving out there in the world, this is not so bad, in the grand scheme of things ... But s--- happens. You joke and say, 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.'" -Jennifer Aniston
7. Own up to the part you played in the breakup.
"You see a lot of people play this blame game. Blame, blame, blame. You know? And it's a really easy thing to do, and I'm certainly guilty of it. [You have to] look at yourself and go, 'What part of this do I need to own? Which part of this is my responsibility?' And that's the painful work that you have to go through to hopefully get some real life knowledge out of it." -Reese Witherspoon
8. Use the past relationship to map out what you want and don't want in your next relationship.
"A lot of therapy has happened and a lot of understanding and growth. Sometimes you have to go through all this s--t to get your grips on life and figure out what the next boundaries in your love life are going to be. You have to go through the mud in order to find that peaceful place. In the long run, it was necessary for me to have more of a teammate." -Katy Perry
9. Don't push new love away.
"I think the thing that I have learned is that a bad love experience is no reason to fear a new love experience. But you have to be very honest at every single stage with the person about how you've been hurt, and hopefully they will be supportive about whatever it is that you have to go through...Everybody has bad relationships and, at the end of the day, they are just a great way to set yourself up for a good relationship." -Anne Hathaway
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Ryan Gosling Reportedly Wanted Rachel McAdams Kicked Off The 'Notebook' Set
Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams may have had the ideal romance in "The Notebook," but off-screen, it's a whole different story.
Director Nick Cassavetes recently revealed to VH1 that, at one point, Gosling wanted McAdams kicked off the film's set and replaced with another actress.
"Maybe I'm not supposed to tell this story, but they were really not getting along one day on set. Really not," said Cassavetes. "And Ryan came to me, and there's 150 people standing in this big scene, and he says, 'Nick, come here.' And he's doing a scene with Rachel and he says, 'Would you take her out of here and bring in another actress to read off-camera with me?' I said, 'What?' He says, 'I can't. I can't do it with her. I'm just not getting anything from this."
Apparently, the only thing that calmed the feud between the lead actors was more fighting.
"We went into a room with a producer; they started screaming and yelling at each other. I walked out," Cassavetes recalled. "At that point I was smoking cigarettes. I smoked a cigarette and everybody came out like, 'All right, let's do this.' And it got better after that, you know? They had it out. The rest of the film wasn't smooth sailing, but it was smoother sailing."
In a 2007 interview with The Observer, Gosling opened up about his rocky relationship with McAdams.
"We inspired the worst in each other. It was a strange experience, making a love story and not getting along with your co-star in any way," Gosling said.
Somehow, the tension between the pair led to a real-life romantic relationship. Gosling himself seems confused by how that came to be.
"I don't know what happened," he told The Observer. "Two years later I saw her in New York and we started getting the idea that maybe we were wrong about each other ..." Gosling trailed off.
Gosling and McAdams dated on and off until they finally called it quits in 2007. In the couple's volatile fashion, Gosling told GQ in 2007 that the two didn't break up without a fight.
“The only thing I remember is we both went down swingin’ and we called it a draw," Gosling said.
Guess love really isn't like the movies.
Director Nick Cassavetes recently revealed to VH1 that, at one point, Gosling wanted McAdams kicked off the film's set and replaced with another actress.
"Maybe I'm not supposed to tell this story, but they were really not getting along one day on set. Really not," said Cassavetes. "And Ryan came to me, and there's 150 people standing in this big scene, and he says, 'Nick, come here.' And he's doing a scene with Rachel and he says, 'Would you take her out of here and bring in another actress to read off-camera with me?' I said, 'What?' He says, 'I can't. I can't do it with her. I'm just not getting anything from this."
Apparently, the only thing that calmed the feud between the lead actors was more fighting.
"We went into a room with a producer; they started screaming and yelling at each other. I walked out," Cassavetes recalled. "At that point I was smoking cigarettes. I smoked a cigarette and everybody came out like, 'All right, let's do this.' And it got better after that, you know? They had it out. The rest of the film wasn't smooth sailing, but it was smoother sailing."
In a 2007 interview with The Observer, Gosling opened up about his rocky relationship with McAdams.
"We inspired the worst in each other. It was a strange experience, making a love story and not getting along with your co-star in any way," Gosling said.
Somehow, the tension between the pair led to a real-life romantic relationship. Gosling himself seems confused by how that came to be.
"I don't know what happened," he told The Observer. "Two years later I saw her in New York and we started getting the idea that maybe we were wrong about each other ..." Gosling trailed off.
Gosling and McAdams dated on and off until they finally called it quits in 2007. In the couple's volatile fashion, Gosling told GQ in 2007 that the two didn't break up without a fight.
“The only thing I remember is we both went down swingin’ and we called it a draw," Gosling said.
Guess love really isn't like the movies.
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17 Times We Could Totally Relate To Larry David
You may be unaware, but a VERY important holiday falls in the first week of July.
No, not the 4th of July, the 2ND of July, otherwise known as Larry David's birthday. Yes, today is a day to celebrate crankiness, endless sarcasm and a general disdain for humankind.
Below are 17 times we could relate to Larry David, because he totally gets us. He really does.
When you don't know what to say during an awkward silence...
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When you get dragged to a boring family function ...
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When you're ordering at Starbucks ...
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When you see someone wearing sunglasses on the subway ...
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When you've been with your significant other for way too long...
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When you need a vacation from a vacation ...
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When someone forgets your name five minutes after you just met ...
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When you get your first paycheck after a raise ...
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When you're having a particularly antisocial day ...
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When you get out of having to leave the house ...
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When your mom asks if you've been eating healthily ...
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When you're sorry you're not sorry ...
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When your online date looks nothing like their photo ...
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When someone tries to talk to you before 8 a.m ...
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When someone complains that they have bad cell phone service ...
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When you run into someone from high school on the street ...
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When someone says they don't think Larry David is funny ...
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You get the idea. Happy 67th, Larry!
Correction: A previous version of this entry stated that David turned 66. He actually turned 67.
No, not the 4th of July, the 2ND of July, otherwise known as Larry David's birthday. Yes, today is a day to celebrate crankiness, endless sarcasm and a general disdain for humankind.
Below are 17 times we could relate to Larry David, because he totally gets us. He really does.
When you don't know what to say during an awkward silence...
When you get dragged to a boring family function ...
When you're ordering at Starbucks ...
When you see someone wearing sunglasses on the subway ...
When you've been with your significant other for way too long...
When you need a vacation from a vacation ...
When someone forgets your name five minutes after you just met ...
When you get your first paycheck after a raise ...
When you're having a particularly antisocial day ...
When you get out of having to leave the house ...
When your mom asks if you've been eating healthily ...
When you're sorry you're not sorry ...
When your online date looks nothing like their photo ...
When someone tries to talk to you before 8 a.m ...
When someone complains that they have bad cell phone service ...
When you run into someone from high school on the street ...
When someone says they don't think Larry David is funny ...
You get the idea. Happy 67th, Larry!
Correction: A previous version of this entry stated that David turned 66. He actually turned 67.
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Jewel And Ty Murray Split After Nearly Six Years Of Marriage
Jewel and rodeo star husband Ty Murray are divorcing after nearly six years of marriage.
"My husband, friend and partner of 16 years and I have decided to get a divorce," the 40-year-old singer wrote in a blog post on her website July 2.
"Ty and I have always tried to live the most authentic life possible, and we wanted our separation as husband and wife to be nothing less loving than the way we came together," wrote Jewel.
"For some time we have been engaged in private and difficult, but thoughtful and tender undoing of ourselves. Allowing ourselves the time and space to redefine what we are to each other with love rather than with malice," she wrote.
The singer emphasized that she and Murray, 44, are "committed to being the best partners" in raising their son, Kase, who will be three years old on July 11.
"Due to the spirit in which we have gone about this separation, we trust we can remain dear friends who hold each other in high esteem, which is so important to us as parents-- we wish only what is best for our son," she wrote.
Jewel and Murray dated for 10 years before tying the knot in the Bahamas in August 2008.
"My husband, friend and partner of 16 years and I have decided to get a divorce," the 40-year-old singer wrote in a blog post on her website July 2.
"Ty and I have always tried to live the most authentic life possible, and we wanted our separation as husband and wife to be nothing less loving than the way we came together," wrote Jewel.
"For some time we have been engaged in private and difficult, but thoughtful and tender undoing of ourselves. Allowing ourselves the time and space to redefine what we are to each other with love rather than with malice," she wrote.
The singer emphasized that she and Murray, 44, are "committed to being the best partners" in raising their son, Kase, who will be three years old on July 11.
"Due to the spirit in which we have gone about this separation, we trust we can remain dear friends who hold each other in high esteem, which is so important to us as parents-- we wish only what is best for our son," she wrote.
Jewel and Murray dated for 10 years before tying the knot in the Bahamas in August 2008.
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Nick Cannon On Mariah Carey As A Mother: 'She's So Nurturing And Amazing'
There was once a time when Mariah Carey didn't want to have children.
She changed her tune later in life, and now Carey and her husband Nick Cannon have three-year-old twins Moroccan and Monroe. During a conversation about the latest season of "WIld 'N Out," Cannon told HuffPost Live's Marc Lamont Hill that despite Carey's initial hesitancy, she eventually came around to his plans for a big family and has become an amazing mother.
"It's kind of cool I got a chance to bring that side out of my wife, because she's so nurturing and amazing," Cannon said. "Not only does she get to be the biggest global singer in the world, but she also gets to be a wonderful mom."
See Cannon gush about his wife in the clip above, and catch the entire HuffPost Live conversation here.
She changed her tune later in life, and now Carey and her husband Nick Cannon have three-year-old twins Moroccan and Monroe. During a conversation about the latest season of "WIld 'N Out," Cannon told HuffPost Live's Marc Lamont Hill that despite Carey's initial hesitancy, she eventually came around to his plans for a big family and has become an amazing mother.
"It's kind of cool I got a chance to bring that side out of my wife, because she's so nurturing and amazing," Cannon said. "Not only does she get to be the biggest global singer in the world, but she also gets to be a wonderful mom."
See Cannon gush about his wife in the clip above, and catch the entire HuffPost Live conversation here.
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Pippa Middleton Reveals Where Her Famous Royal Wedding Dress Is Now
Pippa Middleton went on the Today show this morning, not to promote a useless monarchy or a mediocre party-planning book, but to promote a charity bike ride (more on that here), and that's great. But of course, instead of solely dedicating her first ever US television interview to her cause, Matt Lauer encouraged her to talk about other things.
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Robin Thicke, Please Check Your White Privilege
Mr. Thicke,
I write this as a black man who knows what it means to be treated as a criminal the moment I cross the street. I know what it feels like to hear the words "threatening," "suspicious," and "potentially harmful," every day.
Your new album "Paula" and all the promotion you are getting for it in the name of exploiting the marriage you once had is repulsive. And what is worse you have taken to appropriating black soul and R&B to harass her.
With all due respect, Mr. Thicke, please check your white privilege.
I have no qualms with interracial dating. I think it is a beautiful thing in an age where we all should be more accepting and understanding about race, love, and matrimony. But here is where you have taken advantage of such a relationship and have now become destructive.
We will just forget what past signs of disregard you have had for black entertainers and their work, and focus on your recent charges. As a white artist in a genre that was created, perfected, and initially curated by black musicians, you have benefited from a more diverse fan base. Your hit single "Blurred Lines" was played on every radio station from Harlem to the Hamptons and being married to actress Paula Patton solidified your positive embrace within black entertainment.
But after a publicly messy divorce, and no obvious sign of it returning, you did the unthinkable. You decided that your next stunt would be to create a record that would win back the heart of the very women you decided to stomp on. But not only would you write songs that would be about her, you would actually choose to visually and musically taunt her for the whole world to see. And as a result, exploit your most intimate times with her for the profit and notoriety that she doesn't want.
Robin Thicke, that is called harassment. And what is even worse is that you are incorporating the very music that you appropriated from her community to violate her privacy and space. How disgusting.
And where is the white privilege in that? For many years, black musicians and artists have created music that suggests previous infidelity and romantic hardship. We all know who Usher was talking about in "Confessions" or who Eric Benet was writing his comeback songs for. But none of them had the boldness and audacity to exploit the very women they did wrong, nor did they attempt to play the victim.
Because you are white and have the privilege and entitlement to not automatically accept "no" or any other form of rejection, the public can cheer you on as you fight for what you feel you deserve. Regardless of what reasons Paula has for leaving you, your possessive nature has given you the mindset that she has no say. Even when you admit you have done wrong.
And that is your white privilege.
Because a black man like myself would never be able to publicly harass a white woman in my music and think that I could still collect a check. Because I will never be able to perform at any predominately white awards show like you did at the BET Awards and flaunt my obsession. And if I even dared attempt to exploit the innocence of children to fuel my creepy infatuation, my career would be over.
Sure, social media isn't giving you that much of a break as of recently, but your record label is and that is problematic. Because once again we are reminded that black women in this country, no matter how innocent or rational they are, will never get the proper respect they deserve.
And that is why I will never purchase a record from you again. I will not let your profit off of the imperialistic mindset that has made you a celebrity. You are putting a black woman through public pressure due to your own selfish wants and desires.
If you knew what was best, you would hang it up. Check your privilege and acknowledge that the example you are setting for a new generation of musicians and men is toxic. Instead of trying to show the world how bad you feel you deserve back the heart of a woman who has rightfully left you... try going to therapy or taking a break.
And I say all of this because men of color would be persecuted publicly for such outlandish behavior and would not get a second chance. Do you honestly think that an album like this is really going to make her change her mind?
You messed up, she left you, and it is over. I'm sorry, Mr. Thicke, but "no" in a divorce means "no."
There aren't any blurred lines there.
Sincerely,
Ernest Owens
A black man who wants white musicians like Mr. Thicke to stop having "blurred lines" when it comes to acknowledging their privilege.
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Nicole Scherzinger On Her Bulimia Battle: 'I Wasted My Life
Nicole Scherzinger opens about up her battle with bulimia for the cover of Cosmpolitan UK’s August issue.
“Thinking about it I try not to well up… It is such a horrible paralyzing disease and it was such a dark time for me,” she says.
“Thinking about it I try not to well up… It is such a horrible paralyzing disease and it was such a dark time for me,” she says.
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Bradley Cooper & Suki Waterhouse Look So Happy Together At Serpentine Gallery Party
Bradley Cooper and Suki Waterhouse share an adorable moment while holding hands upon leaving the Serpentine Gallery Summer Party at The Serpentine Gallery on Tuesday (July 1) in London, England.
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Melissa Joan Hart Just Looks The Best She's Ever Looked
Here's Melissa Joan Hart in a swimsuit, looking gorgeous and healthy.
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Rita Wilson On A Different Kind Of Empty Nest -- The 'Empty Nest Of Friendship'
When our last child left home, I was sure that we would now have all the time in the world to spend with friends, hanging out, traveling, sharing all that newfound free time we all suddenly had. Instead, it has been busier than ever and the idea that we, and all of our friends, would be lounging poolside sipping margaritas was really just a fantasy.
So it has been surprising that it's even more difficult finding time to see our friends now. With the absence of that "school calendar" and the fact that all of our kids have their own schedules, I have become aware of an empty nest of a second kind: The Empty Nest of Friendship.
Our friends with kids the same ages have also been experiencing a re- commitment to work or creative endeavors. When the kids were young there was a definite structure to our lives: the school calendar and weekends. We all made plans working around these two specific time frames. You saw your friends because you shared movies after the soccer game, or took the kids to see the movie du jour while we ate salads and they ate pizzas. We caught up with each other while kids swam in the pool or played hide and seek. Summers were designed so that we could vacation together, still able to be with our friends and the children we loved.
While it used to be effortless to see each other because schedules were somewhat defined, now it takes conscious effort. Email is a way to exchange information, but nothing beats sitting across from the friends you love and have known for years sharing your lives and news. I feel recharged when there is that shorthand, the inside jokes that need no explaining, the revisiting of friendship lore, the sympathetic ear of a friend who is also dealing with elderly parents or a child's undecided future plans. These friendships were never ones that were taken for granted, and still aren't. But, now a bit of planning goes into seeing your friends when schedules and work take us in so many different directions.
It's part of the blessings of living long enough to see our kids grow, thrive, become their own people, become parents themselves, and to be there for them in different ways as they forge their futures. But there is something else that needs nurturing, too. With the passing of dear friends, and time butting its head against my wrinkled psyche, one thing is clear. Whether it's that fantasy poolside margarita, a hike in the hills, or a coffee at home, seeing my friends is as important as ever.
So it has been surprising that it's even more difficult finding time to see our friends now. With the absence of that "school calendar" and the fact that all of our kids have their own schedules, I have become aware of an empty nest of a second kind: The Empty Nest of Friendship.
Our friends with kids the same ages have also been experiencing a re- commitment to work or creative endeavors. When the kids were young there was a definite structure to our lives: the school calendar and weekends. We all made plans working around these two specific time frames. You saw your friends because you shared movies after the soccer game, or took the kids to see the movie du jour while we ate salads and they ate pizzas. We caught up with each other while kids swam in the pool or played hide and seek. Summers were designed so that we could vacation together, still able to be with our friends and the children we loved.
While it used to be effortless to see each other because schedules were somewhat defined, now it takes conscious effort. Email is a way to exchange information, but nothing beats sitting across from the friends you love and have known for years sharing your lives and news. I feel recharged when there is that shorthand, the inside jokes that need no explaining, the revisiting of friendship lore, the sympathetic ear of a friend who is also dealing with elderly parents or a child's undecided future plans. These friendships were never ones that were taken for granted, and still aren't. But, now a bit of planning goes into seeing your friends when schedules and work take us in so many different directions.
It's part of the blessings of living long enough to see our kids grow, thrive, become their own people, become parents themselves, and to be there for them in different ways as they forge their futures. But there is something else that needs nurturing, too. With the passing of dear friends, and time butting its head against my wrinkled psyche, one thing is clear. Whether it's that fantasy poolside margarita, a hike in the hills, or a coffee at home, seeing my friends is as important as ever.
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